A Cita Life

So, lately I've been wondering and I'm not sure if you would call it worrying but wondering about my body image. I literally told my husband yesterday that I can not believe I've had two babies in the past two years. It's funny how you can ask a question and the universe will bring you the answer. I found it funny that a mutual friend sent me pictures of myself when I turned 30. First, I rolled my eyes because I'm thinking it's another ploy to get me out to work out. Then again maybe it isn't but we've been down the hey girl why don't you come workout road too many times to count. She means well in a sense she wants me to get my body “back” to the days of no kids but her approach is always wrong. I looked at those pictures today and laughed because if this was what she thought my body back was little did she know that I wasn't where I wanted to be but I was working on it then I got pregnant with my first child. After having him I literally

I recently just did my sew in for the first time and I wanted to talk to you about how I prepared the hair for install. I haven't used this hair in over a year and a half ago so I know I needed to treat it with some love and tender care before the install. I started the process by washing the hair with Edenbody Works in Peppermint Tea Tree. I did two shampoos with that then followed up with the Peppermint Tea Tree conditioner. It's a clarifying shampoo and conditioner that I use after I remove any protective styling to help remove any ick that has been in my hair and to stimulate the hair follicles. I then used Queen Helene Cholesterol with Ginseng Conditioning/Strengthening Cream. I use it to strengthen and repair any damaged hair. My hair dresser told me to use this when I was taking swim classes to protect my hair from the chlorine to not dry my hair out and damage it. I applied a generous amount to the hair then wrapped it in saran wrap and let it sit over night. I ri

I did my sew in for the first time. I can not tell you how excited and beyond proud of myself for doing it. I was a little intimidated by doing it at first and was giving myself unnecessary anxiety about doing the whole thing. Part of it was because we were going on a birthday vacation for my sons birthday and I knew that there was going to be pictures of this experience.  So, I had a deadline to me well an imaginary one in my head. I was getting my nails done on Sunday and I wanted it to be completed the day before. Any time I try something new I usually have my nails super short or wear my natural nails so that they are not in the way of learning something new. The plan was to wash my weave on Friday, wash my natural hair on Saturday, braid and sew on Saturday. Well, it didn't work out as planned. I started washing my hair on Friday didn't complete the process until Saturday. Had my hair braided on Sunday and I sewn it in on Tuesday.  I had a conversation with my

Hey with the holidays upon us please be mindful of your kids especially the little ones. Everyone is so excited to see the newest editions. Just cause the family may be excited doesn't mean your little one is. It's ok to want to hold your baby while he or she is fussy. Do so cause your baby is crying for you to come and get them. Saying I need a break and bring me some comfort. New sights, sounds, and people can be too much for small children and babies. Sometimes, I arrive late and leave early with my little ones not to over simulate them. And when they get too fussy I go to a quiet place to disconnect and refocus that energy whether it's for a feeding, mental break, or a nap. Once, I know they are ok and have been recharged we return to the festivities. Hopefully, these tips can you for the holiday season. Seasons greetings everyone!  This post has been updated to add the video for your viewing pleasure.

As I prepare for vacation, I am trying to figure out what the heck I'm going to wear. You would think it would be simple for warm weather. It would be if we stayed in a warm climate where you can find swim suits and shorts all year around not a 2 to 4 season (if you stay in Michigan you understand that season thing). Plus, on top of that I just had a baby and I really need to figure out what I can actually fit! I went an pulled some stuff today and maybe I'll try it on tomorrow if there is time. It is official that we leave in a week and that I an underwire. But, I'm not worried as much as I thought I would be. While most women are trying to cover up due to the fact that some of your stuff still isn't back to where it was prior to your little ones arrival. I am proud of myself for this simple fact I'm not covering up shit! Why cause it's vacation!?!?! My body has never truly been where I wanted it to be. It's always been a work in process and when I got cl

Welcome back for this edition of Mommy Corner Monday. I wanted to talk about incorporating the kids in daily things you have to do around the house. I even incorporate my son in the errands! Hopefully, these tips can help you in your daily life with your kiddos! I had some issues lately when I go into the kitchen. My 1 year old would come into the kitchen and try to get out of the kitchen whenever I was in there for too long. The only time he would be ok was if I was getting him something to drink. He didn't like me going into the kitchen because that meant I was going to be in there for a long period of time either it was to clean or cook. That meant me being there takes away time from with him whether it was playing, reading a book, watching tv, or just plain mommy time. I decided to incorporate him in my daily activities that just needed to get done either he wanted me or I wanted to do them or not. I had him help me cook dinner. When he came in the kitchen like he normal do

Welcome to this edition of Mommy Corner Monday! Happy Halloween! Here's some tips to have fun and be safe while out with the kiddos trick or treating tonight! Dress the kids for the weather. If you don't check the weather any other day please do so today. You wouldn't want your babies out there in cold without proper clothing. Don't forget to check the kids candy. Check all pieces of candy before letting your child eat it to make sure it wasn't tampered with by anyone. Don't eat any candy that has been opened or altered. Any candy that looks like it has been altered or opened please throw it away. Safety first! Remember curfews are in effect so if you're sending your kids out make sure they are with a legal responsible adult. The curfew for minors without an adult is 6 pm so if you're not accompanied by a legal adult you can be picked up by the police and/or fined. When walking door to door be mindful of your surroundings: You never know what m

With this month being breast cancer awareness month I found something that I thought I should share. I read this article on  blackdoctor.org  stating that the aluminum in deodorant can cause breast cancer among other ingredients that are in our deodorants. Your skin is the largest organ of your body and we need to be just as much aware what we are putting on our body just like how we pay attention to what we are putting into them. The article gave a nifty detox for your under arms with four simple ingredients: Organic Apple Cider Vinegar- 1 Tablespoon Rosemary Essential oil- 3 drops Cilantro Essential oil- 5 drops 1 tablespoon bentonite clay When you mix the mixture together is should have a consistency of yogurt. Apply it under your arm, leave for a few minutes, and then wipe off. If you decide to continue using your current deodorant do this detox once a week. Normally, our bodies can filter out bad stuff like aluminum but it's through our sweat glands. With the swea

I'm trying to put the baby done for a nap with in hopes to get some sleep myself and I get a text from my husband, "Someone told me that I am not making you feel pretty. Do you agree?" I'm thinking to myself no but a girl wouldn't mind some flowers every now and again. I respond to the message "No" still rocking the baby. Then, I get to thinking where is this coming from it can't be because of my challenge. So, I send a message back "Why did they say that?" He stated "because of my challenge. They said you are seeking attention that I am not giving you." Let me point out of the whole point of this challenge is for self love self beauty. To see the beauty within myself. Not for anyone else for me to see, recognize, and realized the beauty in myself. I sat there and got to thinking about it a little longer and then the whole comment pissed me off. It pissed me off for a few reasons. One that you would think I would do this to seek

I just wanted to do an update on the colorful box braids that I had done. I just took them out and I wanted to tell you about them. I had the braids in for a month and a half. The hair wore pretty well I took the braids out because my hair was getting to long with new growth and started to look frizzy but the actual braids still looked really good like the first day I put them in. You know my hair can't hold a style long! The color didn't fade or change colors. The type of hair I used was by the makers of Expressions! Sensationnel African Collection Color Braid in colors T1B/Lavender and T1B/Pastel Pink. The take down process took an hour. Better than the time it took me to put them in. And the hair did not tangle while taking the braids out. Sounds like the claim to the fame of tangle free did work! I will definitely use this hair again. I loved the color and they turned out amazing! I am already eyeing another color! Now, off to deep condition! Later loves!

I went to the grocery store with my kids the other day. I get out of the truck, get a cart and proceed to put my kids in the cart. We are starting to make our way into the grocery store and I see this lady with her cart by her car taking her baby out of the car seat. I don't think anything of it and proceed into the grocery store. While in the produce section I'm getting fruits and vegetables and I'm in my head about what else I need to be getting before I move on to the next section of the store. Something tells me to turn around. I look and see the lady from the parking lot with her baby has laid her baby in the cart with nothing but a blanket on her. This baby is a new baby at that! My son is 3 months old and this baby looked like she was about a good month old. I just look and think to myself I can't believe she just has that baby in the cart like that. I don't say anything and proceed to the next section of the store. I know some of you are saying, "So y

It has always been stated that the true definition of beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One would have to deem themselves as beautiful when they look in the mirror which could can be hard now a days due to the beauty industry and social media. Everyone is a Instagram model these days covered with filters and angles to have them looking their best at all times. I can appreciate model Aisha Thalia because she posts the beauty of herself, the not so beautiful and the "angles" used by some to achieve the beauty and hide the imperfections that keeps them flawless all the time. What is the definition of beauty? According to Merriam-Webster beauty is the quality of being physically attractive, the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind, a beautiful woman. I thought they had a fucked up definition of what beauty was so I went to my go to Dictionary.com. Dictionary.com states the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense

I wish we had YouTube when I was a teenager with all the tutorials showing you how to do hair. I believe my life would have been different! Probably not but one can dream! Well, we had YouTube but I didn't know the benefits of it then I thought it was just for music videos. If you read my Hair Life and Journey in one of my prior posts you will now understand my excitement about my hair. There will be more post about my hair and hopefully even some tutorials at some point. The type of hair I have is a super soft, fine, 3C/4A curl hair type. And not everyone knows how work with that type of hair. I started braiding my own hair because it's cheaper to do it myself, it always falls out when the Africans do it, and plus I really want to know how to do hair. The type of hair I used is from the makers of Expressions! it's called Sensationnel African Collection Color Braid.The packages states it's 100% premium fiber and flame retardant. It's supposed to be hot water set

If you know me then you know I like my nails done whether it's polish, acrylics, stones, or designs! And I'm known to keep dem nails done! Well, since the birth of my son I haven't been keeping them up like I use to. I soaked off my acrylics and been giving my nails a breather. You gotta do that from time to time! So, yesterday I decided to polish my nails while the boys took a nap. Well, let's see how long this last since I messed up 3 nails and hadn't even made it out of the bathroom yet! So, not only am I giving my nails time to breathe I also took the acrylics off to learn how to braid. I can do ponytail braids but I want to learn how to french braid (which is sloppy) and get crisper and cleaner braids while braiding. I figured it would be easier for me to learn and grip the hair better with shorter nails. I'm bout to learn me how to braid to do me some sew ins! Lol! I'm about to be a braiding and sew in G! Well, one can only hope! Also, I'm taki

I started this post to tell you about my current hairstyle, my box braids. I am super happy with how they turned out! This is the first time I've done box braids and on myself to boot. I know some of you may read this like so and what's the big deal? Or I do that all the time lame! Well, for me it's a big deal. I come from a household where all I know how to do is a bun and a ponytail. Here's a little back story on why then maybe you'll understand. My mom always did my hair up to a certain point in my life like I couldn't even wash my own hair. One time I had to take a bath and sneak and do it! You talking about a person so happy to wash their own hair! She use to wash, blow dry, clip ends, and braid our hair so we wouldn't have to go to the shop. (For all my non black readers the shop is a term we use for the beautician/hairdresser.) Plus, I don't think she could afford to send two girls to get their hair done. She use to go to the shop as a kid and h

Welcome to an all new A Cita Life page! I have updated the look of  my blog which  I am super in love with! I just wanted to take the time to reintroduce myself. Hi, my name is Felicita. But, you can call me Cita. I am a mother, wife, puppy momma, and sister. I love to travel, do yoga (hoping to get really good at it having practiced since the birth of my baby), love tea, nails, and spending time with my family. Check out my #acitalife on Instagram and Twitter to see all the things I'm into that makes up me! I am embarking on a new journey that I am super excited about! I'm going on this journey with one of my best friends and cousin, Tisha. We just started a channel on YouTube, The Fae and Cita Show, it will be a lifestyle channel that will talk about big issues in the world down to what polish I have on my nails. We wanted to start this channel where we would/could talk candidly for women, let Tisha tell you specifically women of color but, if you ask me to help people i

I just got a bit of news that made me feel some type of way. I'm like really?..What the hell?...Really? I was pregnant with my second child and was torn between spending the extra time with my boys. Actually, I wanted to spend the extra time with my family but I was slightly concerned with going back earlier in attempts on moving up the corporate ladder. I decided to take a step back to raise my family. I found out that a position that I wanted wasn't even available became available and was filled. I've always felt like in the business corporate world I didn't belong. But, I constantly tried and forced it to work. I worked hard really hard for some people that did not care about me or my well being but yet and still I continued to work hard. But, it never really gotten me anywhere. Why keep trying at something when people don't give a shit about you? Fear of failure. Failure that despite all my efforts I couldn't gain that promotion or that position. So, I wou